How to Manage the Waiting Period in College Admissions
After applications are submitted, interviews are complete, and visits are behind you, many families find themselves in the most uncomfortable phase of the admissions process: the waiting period.
This “quiet time” can feel confusing and anxiety-provoking. There are fewer emails, fewer next steps, and lots of unanswered questions. It’s completely normal to wonder what’s happening, if you should be doing something, if something was missed… queue all the “what if” thoughts!
If you’re feeling the pressure right now, rest assured that this quieter time is normal. We’re going to share what it means, and what you can do during this time to make the most of the admissions process.
What the Admissions “Quiet Time” Really Means
The waiting period is the window between when schools finish gathering information from applications and interviews to visits and meetings, and when they release decisions. While timelines vary by school, age group, and region, this pause happens at (just about) every school.
Even though it may feel like nothing is happening, admissions teams are deep into their work behind the scenes!
What Schools Are Doing During the Quiet Time
Reviewing Applications Holistically
Admissions teams are reading files carefully and discussing applicants as whole people beyond grades and test scores. They’re considering fit, classroom dynamics, learning styles, values, and how each student would contribute to the community.
Balancing the Class
Schools aren’t just admitting individuals; they’re building a cohort. This means balancing academic strengths, interests, personalities, backgrounds, and, in some cases, financial aid budgets.
Making Final Decisions (Which Takes Time)
Final decisions require discussion, comparison, and collaboration among multiple people.
All of this takes time, and silence is not a signal of concern during this time.
What Families Can Do During the Quiet Time
While you can’t speed up decisions, you can use this period productively and intentionally. Here are a few things you can do during this time to stay productive and keep your mind off the stress.
Reflect and Prepare
Take time to reflect on what mattered most in your school visits and interviews. This helps families feel grounded and prepared for any outcome.
Plan for Multiple Outcomes
Preparing emotionally for all possibilities reduces panic when decisions arrive.
Stay Engaged Academically
- Keep grades strong (especially important if a waitlist becomes active)
- Stay engaged in classes and school life
- Continue showing curiosity and effort
Look Ahead Thoughtfully
- Explore summer internships aligned with interests or long-term goals
- Apply for scholarships (including niche or talent-based awards)
- Sign up for Accepted Students Days as they become available
- Schedule required summer physicals (many colleges require one within three months of arrival)
- Seniors, enjoy your final months with friends!
What Families Should Avoid During Quiet Time
Avoid Over-Communicating
Frequent emails or check-ins rarely help and can create unnecessary stress.
Don’t Read Into Timelines
Comparing your family’s experience to others’ only fuels anxiety. Every school and applicant work on different timelines.
Stop the Constant Checking
Refreshing portals and inboxes doesn’t change outcomes, but it does increase stress. Setting boundaries around checking can make a real difference for both parents and students, and keep the focus on enjoying the present moment while it’s here.
Supporting Your Child Emotionally During the Wait
This is often the hardest part! We feel so deeply for our children and want nothing but the best for them, and it can be hard seeing them so stressed out about something that, at this point, is out of their hands. Here are some tips to help keep them regulated:
- Normalize nerves without amplifying them
- Use calm, steady language
- Avoid “what if” spirals
- Reassure them that they are safe and supported regardless of outcome
Your confidence helps your child feel secure, even when the future feels uncertain.
How School First Can Help During This Time
Many families assume that once applications are submitted, it’s too late to work with a consultant, but that’s simply not true!
At School First, we support families through:
- Understanding admissions timelines
- Managing anxiety during the waiting period
- Preparing for acceptances, waitlists, or reapplications
- Advocating thoughtfully and appropriately with schools when needed
If you’re feeling unsure, overwhelmed, or just want a steady guide during this quieter phase, we’re here to help. Reach out to our team today to schedule a free consultation.
You don’t have to navigate the waiting alone.